Him:
Hi I’m billy I’m 16 … I met a really cute girl online she is 15 and we went on our first date Tuesday …. Everything went great and it looks good but there are other guys that are trying to date her too … After how many dates should I ask her to be my girlfriend? Because I really like this girl please help me wing girls .. message me back please I need your help
WG:
Hey Billy. Yay for you for going on a date, that’s awesome!! It’s fine for both of you to be seeing other people when you’re first dating because it’s still casual, but after the third or fourth date, if you’re really hitting it off and you really like her, then you should have the “let’s make this exclusive” talk. That can also be the same time that you ask her to be your girlfriend, or you can see each other exclusively for another month and then ask her to make it official and be your girlfriend. It’s your job to set the pace and to bring up the subject of not dating other people and all that stuff. Keep the communication open with this girl and you’ll do great! Good luck!
2 CommentsJon says:
My girlfriend has been acting really bitchy lately. Every idea I have is ridiculous and all my interests are soooo childish (I sail and mountain bike and fish). She is condescending whenever she gets a chance to be and also tends to be passive aggressive.
I try to talk to her about it and she seems responsive, but always dismisses it as stress from her job (she’s a resident doctor) and it is just me being intimidated by a “career oriented woman”.
I have narrowed it down to whenever she visits her family, who do not go out of their way to hide their lack of interest in me.
Also, both her best friend and her sister are going through breakups with guys they have been dating for about the same amount of time as we have, a little over a year. I figured this is a big factor and am willing to ride it out, but am struggling to figure out how to deal with this.
Any help or guidance that could be provided would be greatly appreciated.
Jon
p.s. Keep up the good work
Dear Jon,
This girl is begging you to break up with her! Begging! This is her way of pushing you away so you leave her so she doesn’t have to feel bad. Also, is this really the right girl for you anyway? One who makes you feel bad for liking to mountain bike? Are you kidding me? She sounds like she needs a reality check. She thinks she can bitch and moan and treat you like shit and you will sit there and take it because she’s a doctor? No way honey. You need to tell her that she either changes her attitude or you’re out. No more trying to figure out that every third Saturday she’s a bitch, or that when she goes to her book club she comes home and beats you. That’s not your job, she needs to figure that out and treat you with love and respect, the same way you treat her. Our advice: Set a limit for how much shit you’ll take from someone and stick to it!
We love You!
The Wing Girls
Long Distance Lovers:
Xavier Says: Hello! I’ve been following you for half a year more or less, you’ve helped me a lot! Thank you. Also, sorry if my English is not perfect, it’s my second language.
I’ll try to explain it short:
There’s this girl i’ve known for a year, we met at a comicon style event, but she lives 100 miles away.
We’ve always been nothing but friendly with each other, because she had a boyfriend and I wasn’t really interested because of the distance.
We met sometimes in a big city between our towns – Barcelona, we are Spanish.
But two or three months ago, she broke up with her boyfriend, at the same a girl rejected me. So we both kinda ran into each other to feel better, we started talking a lot, watching movies together every night -with skype or msn, so it’s kinda sad- And she began to act weirdly. I’ve been friendzoned before , so i though i was again in the friendzone, but then she started talking how she dreams about me every now and then , and stopped talking with me about another boys that she could like. in fact, she started speaking about boys that she rejected recently.
Then, a few days ago, she came by my town a day before my birthday -we’ve never been at the other one town- and we had a “date”? We went to a restaurant, and then i took her to see the town. She asked to go to the places I used to go regularly, or my favorite places. She laughed a lot -i’m a funny guy, but she’d easily burst into laughter-, and even if i tried to avoid physical contact to not make the date go awkward, she didn’t try to avoid it. I hugged her before she left the town by train, but I felt like she wanted something else.
That aside, she told me that she felt really great hanging out with me, and that she’d try to dream with the time we spend -She’s got a nightmare disorder, so dreaming is not really a experience that she enjoys, but the moments i’m in her dreams she feels safe and happy.
I don’t know if i’m friendzoned anymore, or if she’s sending me signs to approach her. I want to be really sure about this, because she’s had many friends that tried to flirt with her, and i don’t want to make her feel uncomfortable about me.
So, what do you think? Should I try the “long distance relationship” or let it go? She’s a really cool and special person, so she’s really worth it.
I’m sorry the message turned out long, thank you for the time you wasted reading this.
WG Says:
Hey Xavier,
Sounds like this girl is giving you all the signals that she is interested in you. The thing we’re wondering is this: Maybe you’re so worried about getting Friend-Zoned that you are Friend Zoning yourself. Hmmm? That’s the way it looks to us. She came to visit you, you went on a date, and you didn’t touch her, hold her hand, kiss her, nothing? Of course she wanted more! Next time you are together, you need to go for it.
Sounds to us like you’ve already decided you want to try the Long Distance thing with her, because she’s worth it. Here’s the thing with long distance a) You need to set up what the boundaries are “We are not seeing other people”, stuff like that. b) You need to know when the distance is going to end, like “In a year, we’re going to move to the same town.” We think you can make this one work, but you gotta step it up and bring the kissy face. Si Senor?
PATRICK SAYS:
So, I just got some new neighbors. The most attractive woman I have ever seen in my life (in person or otherwise) just moved in next door. I am consistently confident and expressive. But, this woman literally takes my breath and ability to speak away with a glance from her. It is so odd. I am usually very talkative and outgoing. However, when I see this woman, I am like a deer in headlights. I do not get it! How do I get my bearings back? I just want to get back to normal.lol. I know how to talk, hug, kiss, etc… I just cannot break this hypnosis that this woman`s beauty, grace, and aura sink me into. I know that sounds like cornball cheese. I am very aware of this. I still remain befuddled by this paralysis. Maybe you girls, the inventors of lovely angelic beauty, can coach me on how to handle this. Being that you are experienced with being the most attractive women in the world, maybe you can tell me what to do. Thanks, girls! ……Your friend, Patrick
WG SAYS:
Hey buddy, first things first: YOU DON’T KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT THIS GIRL. You know she’s pretty but that’s where it ends. So take some of this crazytown pressure you have on yourself off. She could open her mouth and be a total dog or start talking about her boyfriend, or taking crack and how good it feels. What you have here is a fantasy attached to someone and that’s never a good start. It’s one thing to think someone is super hot, its another to project all this crap on her about her being this wonderful person. She could be drowning puppies as we speak. Ok so now that you have that off the plate, it’s just a pretty girl you want to get to know better. With that said, think of some things to say before you meet up with her. Like: “Hey I was thinking of buying the same car you have, do you like it?” or “Have you been to the restaurant down the street? I heard its good.” Especially her being new in town, there should be a lot to talk about, you can offer to be her tour guide. And If you do go out with this chick do not wax on about whatever it is you were saying about her aura, nothing will scare her quicker. Good luck and remember its no big deal! xoxo The Wing Girls
1 CommentCJ Says:
Dear Wing Girls,
Ive been talking to a girl i know for several months now. We are always able to keep each other company and never run out of things to say we always talk and always have a good time when we are with each other. But, as time went on i grew in attachment for her and for months now have liked her. And about a month or so ago she got an unexpected boyfriend who she dumped after only a few weeks. While she was dating him she told me that she didnt want to stop talking cause she told me she liked me and that she felt we were meant to be. And then i told her i agreed. Also, she said whenever she was with him she thought of me and that she never felt this way about another guy and that she had to break up with him cause she always thought of me. Well since then she has been talking to several other guys and yet she still wants to talk to me but hasnt mentioned how she felt in a month or so. I dont know if she still feels the way i do anymore and i feel like im stuck in the friend zone. Im really confused on what to do. Should i keep talking to her and see if me and her are meant to be like she said a couple months ago or should i just stop talking to her and move on and forget everything? Should i feel hurt or bothered by her talking to other guys after her telling me this? Because i do. Id really appreciate if you commented back with some advise cause im struggling alot right now and im not sure what to do.
Jeremy Says:
i live in Las Cruces New Mexico and all of my freinds hav told me i have a funny, relaxed, and veryexciting, and calm personality at times. they also call me jay i am 17 and i know how to play the guitar and i dress like a cowboy, “it really helps down here.” pretty much i hav picked up all of the hints you girls have said to look for but they are not the girls im looking for. i hav only had one gilrfriend because of the personality traits i look for such as funny, smart, exciting and just be a very kind person such as you two, is there something wrong with me for thinking like that and can you help me.
WG Says:
Okay Jay, there is a difference between having standards that are too high and having standards. It’s good to have standards, as in :”I want someone who’s smart, generous, funny and nice.” That’s fine. However, sometimes we come across guys who have crazy high standards, as in “I want a girl who’s smart, generous, funny and nice, who has no less than a C cup boob, who has long blonde hair down to her back, who moonlights as a lingerie model and can bake like Betty Crocker.” To them we say “Enjoy being single until you’re 80.” Ask yourself what are the 4 qualities that are most important in a girl friend. Write ‘em down. And then don’t settle for less than those qualities. There’s nothing wrong with you that you haven’t met The One yet. You have plenty of time. We love us some cowboys who play guitar, so be patient. She’s waiting for you somewhere.
xoxo
WG
Leave a commentAndrew says:
Hey.. I like you videos, how would you go about asking someone out on the job? …. as in I deliver to her but don’t want to lose my job lol
-Andrew
WG Says:
Hey Boy,
You gotta be stealth in that situation, because no, you definitely don’t want to mess up your job. If you deliver to her regularly, you can make small talk, like Hey, what’s your name? I like your hair today, etc. Once you’ve got a good back and forth going, you can ask her if she’d like to hang out with you this weekend. If she says yes, ask for her number. If she says no, let it be. You won’t lose your job as long as you’re respectful and don’t do anything appropriate. Being nice and friendly and even a little flirty on the job is fine in our book! PS, What do you deliver? Cuz we could really go for a Hawaiian pizza right now
xoxo
WG
Leave a commentChris Says:
Hey girls whats up? I found you guys on your how to tie a tie video (yes I am in fact STILL tie challenged)I thought you guys were3 hilarious and decided to keep watching you guys which I’m glad I did. So I know this is going to probably make me sound like a gay sappy loser but I gotta live with that because well this has been weighing on my mind, and I need some real advice the “Ayy man you don’t need her here man smoke this it’ll make you feel better go screw that girl over there man its all good bro forget about her” ain’t really working too great. I’ll try to keep it brief how successful I’ll be I don’t know please bear with me. SO me and my girl just broke up we were together 2 months just shy of 3 years. And I love her, going a day without talking to her makes me feel just kind of empty. And I’ve never felt like that before with anyone, and I’ve had a fair share of girlfriends. Anyway we officially broke up about 3 weeks ago. Out of the blue she just well dumped me. And I could see it was hard on her so I agreed with her to make it easier on her it basically went Her: “Look I can’t do this you have been getting distant I know you have been dealing with a lot but we just aren’t the same and it hurts me to be around you” ME: “It’s okay I understand do what you have to do. Don’t worry about it” So about a week after that she texts me and and she’s asking if we are on good terms and she is saying how a couple of them are going out to dance and she invites me to go, me being an idiot and, like I said before I can’t stand being away from her, I agreed. We went out, have a good time and since then its been like old times everyone is saying we are a couple without the titles. She still says she loves me and she even got mad at another girl helping me study for my chem finals Chem-the most unromantic or sexy thing in the entire universe but okay. She recently told me that she broke up with me because “Something happened with mark and not all their clothes stayed on and she might partially have a thing for him” her words pretty much exactly. Mark is saying how he got the good catholic girl to crack and give him head shes saying nothing below the waist came off. I don’t know who to believe. But I ended up punching Mark. My ex(Its really weird to call her that)is saying I’m wrong for being mad because me and her aren’t together anymore but it happened while we were together. I don’t know am I wrong for being so mad? And I know we need to really break up and not talk but I don’t think I’m strong enough to just stop talking to her. I really do love her. I don’t know if this was brief or even readable but I tried. Thanks for reading it if you made it this far, I’m sorry for it being confusing it kinda felt good to get it off my chest and I had more down but for your sake I erased some sentences so you didn’t have to read a novel. Thanks again I appreciate it. I didn’t reread this so if there are grammar or spelling mistakes sorry. Bye Chris.
WG Says:
Okay man, here’s the deal. She cheated on you. Even if clothes below the waist did or didn’t stay on, she still did stuff with someone else that you don’t do when you’re in a relationship. You should be mad, like throwing things at the wall MAD. AND she said she “kinda” has feelings for him, which is even worse because she’s cheating on you emotionally. All this equals the trust is majorly fucked up in your relationship now. If you got back together now, it would go to shit really fast. You know why? You can’t build a house on shaky foundation. It will never stand. So, you two have to work on rebuilding your trust if you’re ever gonna be together for reals. That’s not gonna happen if you’re hanging out and drinking and having fun together. You gotta put your foot down and spend some time away from her. We know it sucks, you’re gonna hate it and it’s the hardest thing to do. But you can do it!! You can do it, dude! Find a friend of yours who you can call when you feel like calling her. And hang out with your friends instead of sitting in your room missing her. It will be hard, but each day will get a little bit easier. You both need as much space as you can right now to reset and figure out how you really feel. For more help, watch this vid!
2 CommentsTom Says:
hey, I met this girl on a nightout, well sort of, we only remembered bits of it, nothing happened but we’ve been talking on facebook and have been flirting for a while now and had a good few phone convos. Anyways I asked her out last week and she seemed up for it, when I asked her the day before if she was still up for it she said yes and even set up a time and place to meet. When I get to the place she doesn’t turn up and her phone is off so I can’t get in touch wiv her and I’ve not heard nothing since, no explanantion nothing, WTF?
WG Says:
Hey Tom. Being stood up sucks big hairy monkey nuts! We can’t stand people who do that. Explanation #1 is that she got hit by a bus on the way to your date. We hope that’s not really the case, though anyone that stands a guy up kinda deserves it. Explanation #2: She’s blowing you off. This is probably more likely. You guys had a super sloppy drunk hook up, she feels guilty about it, and now she doesn’t want to tell you what’s really up, so instead, she’s going to avoid you. In cases like this, we say NO to second chances. If she doesn’t give you the respect you deserve to at least tell you she can’t make it, then you don’t need to waste another precious moment of your life on her. Onward and upward, our friend!!